Such a great reminder. I feel this way with a few friends since I moved out of the country and have been working to let go. One in particular was super instrumental in my healing journey so it's been hard, but I recognize that he may have been what I needed just for that season of my life. Every friendship isn't forever.
Moves reveal true friendship. I have moved countries and states. You’re absolutely right. It doesn’t diminish the “value” or specialness of that relationship for the time it lasted. Some friendships are situational, seasonal, brief, or eternal. People and places change. None of this means it hurts any less. When a friendship ends, there is a grieving period. It’s not really talked about, but I recognize it.
Monica, this was so good to read. I always felt like I was to blame if a friendship petered out or connection stopped. But in the last year I have purged friendships that were what you described as one sided , all effort with no positive response and draining to the point that you felt an emptiness with them that just couldn’t be filled. I didn’t make a big scene, but quietly just quit them. Bad the response was a silence that confirmed my decision to be correct. I’ve chosen to keep the ones that fill my bucket and that I am able to fill theirs. 🥰🥰🥰
You are already doing the work. Shedding these relationships makes room for new ones and you can discern which are quality, sooner or later. People tend to always be in the best behavior at first. When things get tough, who sticks around and gives you support when there is nothing to gain, there lies true friendship/sisterhood. 💖💖 Thank you for sharing your experience.
Hey beautiful, One line stayed with me: "It's not just releasing what hurt you. Releasing what simply no longer fits." That reframes endings in such a compassionate way. I also appreciated your reminder that some friendships aren't failures simply because they end. Some relationships complete their purpose, and recognizing that can be an act of gratitude rather than regret.
Thank you, M2. Yes, indeed. I have learned over time that if it no longer fits or aligns, I have to cut the cord. For me. Doesn’t negate the past. Thank you for always having an intelligent insight on my essays.
Awww. I was wondering how I was going to finish the month. It had to be putting the two goddesses together and this seems to be the theme for me right now.
Such a great reminder. I feel this way with a few friends since I moved out of the country and have been working to let go. One in particular was super instrumental in my healing journey so it's been hard, but I recognize that he may have been what I needed just for that season of my life. Every friendship isn't forever.
Moves reveal true friendship. I have moved countries and states. You’re absolutely right. It doesn’t diminish the “value” or specialness of that relationship for the time it lasted. Some friendships are situational, seasonal, brief, or eternal. People and places change. None of this means it hurts any less. When a friendship ends, there is a grieving period. It’s not really talked about, but I recognize it.
So true. Thanks for bringing it to light.
Of course.
Monica, this was so good to read. I always felt like I was to blame if a friendship petered out or connection stopped. But in the last year I have purged friendships that were what you described as one sided , all effort with no positive response and draining to the point that you felt an emptiness with them that just couldn’t be filled. I didn’t make a big scene, but quietly just quit them. Bad the response was a silence that confirmed my decision to be correct. I’ve chosen to keep the ones that fill my bucket and that I am able to fill theirs. 🥰🥰🥰
You are already doing the work. Shedding these relationships makes room for new ones and you can discern which are quality, sooner or later. People tend to always be in the best behavior at first. When things get tough, who sticks around and gives you support when there is nothing to gain, there lies true friendship/sisterhood. 💖💖 Thank you for sharing your experience.
Hey beautiful, One line stayed with me: "It's not just releasing what hurt you. Releasing what simply no longer fits." That reframes endings in such a compassionate way. I also appreciated your reminder that some friendships aren't failures simply because they end. Some relationships complete their purpose, and recognizing that can be an act of gratitude rather than regret.
Another amazing essay. M2
Thank you, M2. Yes, indeed. I have learned over time that if it no longer fits or aligns, I have to cut the cord. For me. Doesn’t negate the past. Thank you for always having an intelligent insight on my essays.
I swear every essay you publish hits me at the right time.
Awww. I was wondering how I was going to finish the month. It had to be putting the two goddesses together and this seems to be the theme for me right now.