This Is the Part No One Explains About Healing

You’re not lost—you just don’t see through the forest fog yet

Goddess Isis is the first guide in the Goddess Method

There’s a moment in healing where everything feels… unclear.

Not chaotic or even painful in the same way it was before.

Just… foggy.

You’re no longer where you were.

But you don’t quite know where you are either.

And it’s easy to think:

I’m lost.

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But looking back now, I can see that I wasn’t lost.

I was in a phase I didn’t yet have language for.

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Before my divorce, I spent a long time trying to fix something that, deep down, I already knew was over.

Not just in that moment.

If I’m honest, it had probably been over for a long time.

But I was stubborn.

I believed I could fix it.

That somehow, on my own, I could bring it back to what I thought it should be.

If I could turn back time, I’d slap myself over the head and knock some sense into me.

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And then there was a moment I couldn’t ignore.

I remember fast-forwarding my life thirty years.

Seeing a version of myself that was more resentful, more miserable, more disconnected from who I wanted to be.

That realization didn’t feel empowering.

It felt heavy. Full of regret.

Like I had already stayed too long.

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And yet… even then, I didn’t fully understand what I was moving through.

When I finally asked for the divorce, something unexpected happened.

The red carpet treatment.

Suddenly, everything looked like it was changing.

The gestures. The words. The effort. The romance.

And for a moment, it was confusing.

Because on the surface, it felt like the relationship was becoming what I had always hoped for.

But in the places that mattered most—

nothing had actually shifted.

And that’s where clarity began to settle in.

Not loudly, but steadily.

I realized that I could still love him…

and love myself more.

That I deserved more than moments of change.

I needed something foundational to be different.

That moment didn’t come with certainty.

It came with a quiet knowing.

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And then came the part no one prepares you for.

The silence.

Being alone in the house.

Sitting with everything I had avoided feeling.

I knew I had to face it.

But I didn’t realize I was entering something deeper.

What I now call the See Phase. (One of 5 healing phases)

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At the time, I didn’t have those words.

I didn’t know there was a structure to what I was experiencing.

But looking back now, I can see it clearly.

There was a phase where I was being asked to see.

To gather the pieces.

To recognize what had been there all along.

And then there was a phase where I had to feel.

To let the emotions surface.

To allow grief, loss, and heartbreak to move through me—

instead of trying to rush past them.

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What felt like confusion…

was actually a process.

What felt like being stuck was actually movement.

I just didn’t have the language for it yet.

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It’s been fourteen years since that phase of my life.

And since then, I’ve watched so many women walk through something similar.

Some rush through it.

Some get stuck in it.

Some never quite rebuild what they deserve—

because they never felt worthy of moving forward.

And that’s what stayed with me.

Not just my own experience.

But how many women were navigating this alone.

Late at night.

In their homes.

With thoughts and emotions they didn’t know how to process.

That’s why I started to look at healing differently.

Not as something random or something you just “get through.”

But as something that has structure.

Phases. (5 to be exact)

A rhythm.

I didn’t have language for it back then.

But now I do.

What I experienced—and what I now guide women through—

is part of what I call The Goddess Method.

A way of moving through healing that honors both:

• what you see

• and what you feel

Because both matter.

And when they’re allowed to happen in their own time—

something begins to shift in a way that actually lasts.

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So if you’re in that space right now—

where things feel unclear…

where you’re no longer where you were…

but not quite sure what comes next—

you’re not lost.

You just don’t see through the forest fog yet.

And that doesn’t mean you’re stuck.

It means you’re in the part of the process that most people were never taught to recognize.

And maybe…

you’re already further along than you think.

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If you’ve been in that space, you’ve already begun what I call the See Phase.

And if you need guidance through it, I created something for you.